I’ve been hearing a lot of talk over what seems to be a silly book to me. Maybe it’s because I don’t think the male mind is as complicated as people make it out to be. Here’s the book:
and here’s the link:
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/068987474X/103-2913817-1299004
I guess the writers came from the “Sex in the City” show. Most (if not all of them are single themselves so they’re dealing with all the stuff that single’s in NY would expect to deal with). I thought it so funny that this issue has become such a large media interest over the past couple of weeks. The author has already been on TWO different radio station talk shows I’ve heard of here in LA. The issue is that there are a lot of women out there that are frustrated when they go out on a date, the guy says he had a great time and that “I’ll call you” –but never does. Women are frustrated trying to figure out why they do that and I think it’s a number of fairly simple reasons but here’s my first pick:
MEN WANT TO KEEP THEIR OPTIONS OPEN
Even if the date went badly, or her personality is not interesting, or maybe she’s not that physically attractive to the guy, there’s always the chance that they will have to fall back on choices they might have not wanted at first. Now I know that sounds terrible. IT IS!!! But that’s just the way most men’s minds work. We would never actually tell a woman that we aren’t attracted to her because in a crunch we may not mind being with them for the night. Why is this not ever admitted to? I am not proud of my carnal characteristics but at least I’m man enough to admit that I have them and not try and say something other than the truth. I’m not trying to justify it either -I think it can have destructive results in the process too. Now on to my second reason…
MEN JUST CAN’T SAY ANYTHING DISCOURAGING TO WOMEN
We’re taught this from a early age (not that it needs to be taught). “Does this dress make me look fat?” Why is that such a hard question to answer? Simple. Because it’s so hard for a man to say anything negative or discouraging to a woman –especially one that has accepted your invitation for a date. Getting to go out with a woman is such a special (and sometimes rare) thing that saying anything other than positive things while on a date would just seem like “dating suicide”. Now personally I have been guilty of this as well. I also now think it’s a stupid mentality considering honesty is a much more noble quality than just being nice -yet I will still admit to it and not try and deny that most men are actually “relationship cowards” –and this translates to many other areas of the battle of the sexes. Most men are just cowards. We’ll pick up a rifle and walk into battle, we’ll pick up a shoe and chase after a spider, and we’ll pick up a screwdriver and tear open a computer or a car, but we’ll run like hell from a girl “wanting to talk”.
Can’t say I have any conclusion here other than to at least help some people understand the nature of the animal they’re dealing with!